How To Not Feel Anxious

I used to be obsessed with my thinking. Id wake up and a stream of to dos would start. Id feel my body start to respond...racing heart, confusion, rushedness, the sudden impulse to be alone to FIX IT ALL or MAKE A PLAN. It felt compulsive like something I had to do. I felt all the range of emotions at 5am about the day ahead AND the day before, guilt about rushing bedtime with my kids, frustration about not having enough time, anxiety about the current day and everything I had to do..AND judgement of “am I doing enough” ontop of all of that. It felt so heavy. Until I learned that a anxiety is just a busy mind. A mind full of swirling and swirling thought. I tested and retested this theory and confirmed busy mind=anxiety, clear mind= calm.

1. When I know I have a free day- clear mind (no thinking of nap timing and snack packing and fear of rushing my daughter home for bedtime-will we make it?)

2. On Saturdays not working- clear mind (no thinking of emails and meetings and deadlines and will I even have time for lunch)

3. A clean house- clear mind (no thoughts about how dirty it is, how I have to do the laundry and the dishes and clean up kids stuff)

Yes, I can and DO experience a clear mind when 1, 2 and 3 aren’t happening but it’s just evidence of how my own brain is creating my experience of my life. I’m aware that when I feel anxious it’s a lot a lot of scary thinking going on. How did I stop? DEEP DEEP knowing I don’t have to participate in the thinking. Basically just let it go. Constant thinking/overthinking (not inspired action) is a habit and doesn’t help me be any more or less productive in life. I’ve test and retested this for YEARS. Try it out, it will change your life!